Let’s say you are about 30 years old and you are still single, while most of your friends are married, engaged, or are in a serious relationship. You are feeling desperate and unhappy about it. Stop! This is not the right approach. First of all, you are healthy, happy, you have a great social life and the only thing you miss is finding a right partner for you. 

While searching for the “right” one, start thinking about how many advantages you have of being single! Right, being in a relationship does not mean being 100% happy!  Enjoy your time alone! Welcome any vacation plan you like – extreme, active, whatever. Say “yes” to any places you like, like any type of restaurant, bar or club. Or just stay home with a book, without being bothered. Don’t think about what you do not have, but focus on what you have: you are the boss of your life! 

Whenever you are feeling lonely, sad or desperate, think about good things in your life, look inside you and focus on what is important for you!

What are your priorities in life? 

Before you read below about some possible important areas of life, identify what is important for you. This will help you to identify compatibilities with a potential partner. 

These areas could be: Family, Faith, Money, Work, Health, Lifestyle. How do you view these core areas? Where do your values and priorities lie? Are you happy with your goals ?

Ask yourself: which areas stand out the most in terms of how you want to live your life in future? From this list, you might feel that someone that attracts you has different priorities. Those families, who share the same life values tend to have a more happy life together than those who have different core values in life. Remember, however, that partners can share the same life values even with differences in race, religion, background, hobbies or interests! 

Which partner do I need? 

Do you know what is the “right” person for you? Can you describe in details what is important for you in your soulmate? For this exercise, take a white paper, divide it into two parts. In the right column, list five deal-breakers. Maybe it’s having a debt, cigarette-smoking, being closed-minded or something else. In the left column, write what would you like to see in the potential partner. Are age, appearance important for you? Or kind heart, excellent job outweigh the rest? When you meet a new person, this list may be a useful tool for you. You can understand if this person is the right fit for your future. Instead of worrying if the person likes you or not, first, think about your needs!

Bottom line

Most important is whether you are happy with yourself and with your life. We suggest you to prioritize your desires and wishes. The more happy you are, the more you will attract good people. 

If you have someone in your mind that has the same life priorities and might be a good match for you, allow Eureka app to help you! Download Eureka app on your smartphone, fill in your profile, invite the person you like with the in-app intuitive invite feature. And let the magic happen for both of you! You do not have to worry about opening up if you don’t want to. You will be notified only if there is a mutual like! Give it a try and let us know what you think.

First dates can be incredibly awkward but truly important in the beginning of the relationship. You are two total strangers (most likely never met before) attempting to impress and excite each other to know each other better and have fun together. It seems easy, but probably easier said than done. That is why, it is always better to go on a first date prepared and armed with exiting topics to discuss and laugh. With homework done at home, the first date will be more easy going and fun! 

Here are 7 dating topics you can discuss with your partner on the first date:

1. If you had a chance to travel everywhere you want, where would it be ?

Travelling is a fun topic to kick start the conversation. You can always discuss where you have been already, which places you liked so far and your dream destinations. It’s the chance to find something in common, the type of vacation you both prefer and where you can dream of travelling together. A great topic to exchange ideas and dream about. 

2. Tell me about you family

Family is very important for each of us, it shapes our characters, and reflects our personality. If you want to know deeply about your partner, learning about the family can be a good start. You can ask how many siblings they have, how close they are to the family, if they meet often and if the family is important to them. You can find a lot about your partner just asking about their family!

3. If you won 1 million dollars in a lottery, what would you spend for ?

This is a fun question to give you a clue what matters the most to the person. Maybe they want to help fighting against poverty or they want to buy a helicopter or a nice house to live in. Or maybe they just want to be on vacation until money are gone. This question might give you an idea if the person is satisfied with their life or, on the contrary, is looking for some big changes. 

4. If you were on a deserted island, which 3 things would you need the most?

This question will give you an idea about person’s values in life, as well as give you an insight about how the person’s brain works. 

5. What are you proud of?

Ask what they have done and they are really happy about it. Are there some great accomplishments to be known by the whole world or something little to tell only to friends? This question can give you an idea about how confident the person is and if they can put value even in small things. 

6. Is there something you don’t like to eat?

This question can be the opposite to the traditional one “What is your favorite food?”. It is more specific and you can anyway discuss your favorite and unfavorite food, share memories, especially if you are having a dinner date. 

7. What’s been the best year in your life?

This question can bring you a little bit to a deeper level, encouraging reflection and thinking. You can hear a lovely story or maybe that person is still waiting for the best year to come, maybe together with you! The questions above hopefully can make the first date more easy-going and fun. It is anyway better than asking what is your job and what did you do yesterday.

However, for those who are reading this blog post and still feel silent when thinking about first date, we have one more question: “Do you have a friend in you phone contact list that you would like to invite for the first date?” If the answer is positive, we suggest you to try the new dating app Eureka, which can help you to have a date with a person you have already met and avoid asking all these questions! Just download the app, invite your friend to join the app. Wait until you see them on your friend list, put the “Heart” sign in front of their name and wait until you are liked back! If your crush for some reason does not like you as well, they will not know you did. Your feelings will be kept only to you! Try it out, you might be one step closer to the date of your life!