Month: February 2020

Valentine’s Day occurs every year on Februry,14^th. Across the United states, Canada, Mexico and other countries, this day is filled with flowers, chocolate and little presents in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this mysterious Saint Valentine and from where comes this sweet tradition of celebrating love? 

One legend describes a priest named Valentine who lived during the third century in Rome. The Roman Emperor Claudius II was building up a military at that time and supposedly thought that married men dedicate too much time to the family, while single served better for the military. To build a stronger army, the emperor outlawed marriage for young men. Feeling that this sweetheart ban was unjust, priest Valentine apparently performed secret marriage ceremonies.  When Claudius II found out, the love priest was put to death. His feast day was set as February 14^th by the Church to honor his heroic life.

There is also the less violent fable. Another man named Valentine was imprisoned by the Romans. One day he sent a letter to a woman he loved with the signature, “From your Valentine.” As history has it, a prison letter would ultimately spark the ideas for both valentine cards and the concept of valentine admirers. 

Another story says that having a particular Valentine’s Day is a very old tradition, thought to have originated from a Roman festival called Lupercalia in the middle of February – officially the start of their springtime. The feast involved a pagan ritual of naked men whipping women with the blood-soaked hides of sacrificial animals, which they believed promoted fertility. This day men selected women’s names at random to decide who would remain together the rest of the festival, or, if the match was successful, for life.

However, English professor from a University of Kansas, Jack B. Oruch had a different theory. He determined that the poet Geoffrey Chaucer linked love with St. Valentine for the first time in his 14th-century works “The Parlement of Foules” and “The Complaint of Mars.” Therefore, Oruch claimed that Chaucer invented Valentine’s Day as we know it today. Soon, people began sending Love letters to celebrate Valentine’s Day, and by the early 1910s, an American company that would one day become Hallmark began distributing its more official “Valentine’s Day cards.” 

As we can see Valentine’s day has its own history and mystery around. Over the years and centuries, Valentine’s Day has been a religious celebration, an ancient ritual day, and a commercial holiday. Nowadays, it’s a popular day not only among couples but also singles celebrate it! 

Valentine’s Day is truly whatever you want it to be: it’s your choice whether to skip the celebrations completely, or buy yourself some chocolate or flowers, or express your love and appreciation for the people in your life, whether they’re co-workers, romantic partners, friends, or family members. Some people love Valentine’s Day, and some people just love to hate it.

If you’re trying to figure out what to do on Valentine’s Day, just know that there are no rules: It’s a new era, and you can celebrate the day of love however you want, even if it’s just through self-love. 

For those in love, Valentine’s Day is a time to reflect on your relationship and remember all the reasons why you love each other.However, if you find yourself alone on February 14^th, you probably view the holiday a bit differently. But just because you don’t have someone special to share it with, doesn’t mean that the day itself can’t be special. Hosting a Valentine’s Day party for friends and family are also great ways to celebrate!

While everyone does unhealthy stuff, we can all learn to love better and shift to better behavior. It is important to recognize warning signs in a relationship and not to ignore them. Otherwise, it can draw you down and even lead to abuse. There are several red flags which may indicate that your relationship isn’t going to work out. Of course, some are very obvious like cheating or violence, we are not discussing them. If you see it, try to tell someone and get help. Other warning signs may take time to notice but it does not mean you need to ignore them . All in all, everyone deserves to be happy and not trapped in an unhealthy partnership.

1. Lack of trust

Trust is the cornerstone in every relationship. With trust people feel safe, without it the stability is lost. At the basic, with trust we feel partners can relate on each other in every possible situation, it also allows us not to be afraid about our feelings and thoughts. Trust goes hand in hand with commitment. Only if you trust  your partner, you can commit your life to them. Partners who do not trust each other cannot feel secure. It is the first warning sign to talk about. 

2. Lack of communication

In a healthy relationship, one can talk about everything, especially what worries most. Among topics for discussion are: health, relationship, self-development, kids, sex, money, goals, dreams. The most difficult in the relationship is to talk and communicate your desires. However it is very important. You can exchange a million words and not say the main problem. Or you can silently look at each other and tell about everything. 

3. Your friends and family do not approve

When you are in a relationship, it is important that your family likes your partner. And it makes sense: you will all meet a lot of times in the future. Try to listen to your friends and family members and understand the reasons. There might be something concerning in their discussions. If you still want to defend your partner and do not accept your family’s arguments, try to step back and build a friendship with your crush while trying to persuade your family that you have made a right choice. 

4. Different desires and goals

In a relationship, having desires and goals which are in common is important. It is a beacon that helps you to move on. Try to write down on a piece of paper both your goals and dreams and compare them .Maybe they are just told in different words or maybe it is an important topic to consider while building relationship. 

5. The negatives are not turning positives

Negativity can be present also in healthy relations. However, negative side can be always turned into a positive one. Your partner keeps working until late, well, next week you can afford a long romantic weekend off work. If your partner only sees negative side, it is a red flag. No one deserves to be treated negatively, it should not be tolerated. 

6. You feel the relationship is drowning you down

If you feel that you are tired of the person, do not want to come home and just happy to be by yourself. There is a rarely happy ending and do you need emotional vampire next to you. 

It is easy to justify people when we love. However, it is important to trust your gut if you feel something is wrong and you are not happy in a relationship. Discuss what worries you with your partner. And a piece of advice from us: keep your eyes open and try to do some thinking with your head not only with your heart. 

It is common knowledge that being in a relationship does not mean to have certain chemistry between both partners. Especially when the couple is together for years and years, they start feeling almost like brother and sister. Sometimes the lack of chemistry leads to bored feelings, unhappiness and even to betrayal. Chemistry is more than just attraction, it is the certain sparkle between partners, it is a sort of magnetic-like attraction, it is the feeling of butterflies in the stomach and just the desire to suddenly grab and kiss the partner. So what you can do if there is no more vibe in the relationship? How to sparkle it? We are going to tell you some tips how to spark chemistry in a couple.

1. Remember what it was when you first met

Remember? There was only you and your partner in all the entire world. You wanted to share your lives, dreams, hopes and talk all the night about everything. There was no room for anything or anyone else. Wonderful feeling, isn’t? Try to figure out what was exactly that attracted you to your partner, what exited you the most? These recordings can refresh your attitude towards your crush and bring you to the new level. 

2. Invite for a date

When you were dating in the beginning, you probably tried all types of food in restaurants and went to lots of bars. And now, do you prefer to cook at home? Invite your partner for a romantic dinner to the place they like and spend quality time together without smartphones. Enjoy yourself like the first time you met. 

3. Make a surprise

Spontaneous presents, flowers or surprises are the best! Especially if your beloved one already forgot what it is! Try something new together, maybe parachuting or biking or going to the cinema. Bring back miracles, it will help you feel desired. 

4. Boost your sexuality

No matter how long you have been together, make an effort to be sexual and seductive. Break the predictable pattern and surprise. This will keep passion alive. 

5. Stop complaining

When you know each other pretty long, you definitely know each other’s downsides and limitations. Stop talking about them! Do not mention what you do not like in your partner. Drop perfectionism for couple of week and you will notice how relationship can improve. 

6. Have other interests and hobbies

Your  partner cannot meet you every day – best friend, coach, stress manager or a cook. It is important that you have additional interests outside to support you. It is great to do everything together, but it is ok to follow your own needs and passion.

Above all, be grateful and do not lose hope. Relationships, like life, have ups and downs. If you are in a downward slope right now, have faith: Things will get better. Put some time, energy, and love into your relationship. Focus on being the best partner you can be. Get help if you need it. And see the positive in your partner and your relationship.